To me it's more about the afiixitions individuals put on them for themselves. But I'm probably a bigot so 🤷
Eventually all words will be bad depending on implications I suppose. I dunno. I'm legitimately not all together so. Maybe me not using them in hate for me means hateful for someone else. It's all about perceptions in a lot of ways.
Though, I do not disagree with you. I should better myself.