I had a very interesting conversation with my teenage daughter about romance novels.

There are some “romance novels” out there called dark romances that are glamorizations of sexual assault and emotional abuse.

Now here is the tricky part, the red pill crew will look at that and take it as evidence that women want to be controlled by men. But the truth is that this stuff is the symptom of being abused.

Imagine a girl that was raised by a red pilled dude that measured himself, his “masculinity” in terms of how well he controlled women. That father will be very emotionally abusive (hopefully not also sexually abusive) to his daughter, and the consequence of that is that abuse and love become wired together in her head. When she is older she will be attracted to abusive men as that is what feels like love to her. It will take a lot of work for her to heal and break free of that to have healthy relationships.

It’s a vicious cycle where abuse leads to more abuse.

Us, as healthy or healed adults, need to call this out for what it is. It’s our job to stop this cycle of abuse.