The most common reaction to a button that says "request delete" is "what the hell do you mean 'request'?!" Everything else is just a few nerds reasoning it out.

If Nostr in an all public form has no ambition to scale to 1m users and beyond then that's all fine. If it does then that's a huge problem.

It all comes down to ambition to scale. What's the ambition? What's the goal? What's the desired number?