I dropped my mother off at the airport this morning. I love her, but I am so, so relieved for her to go now. This isn't her fault, she is who she is, but I have never met a person so pathologically self-centered that she doesn't even know the harm she does. She acts as if whatever is happening in her head must be happening in everyone's head. Does she not have a theory of mind? I'm not always good and calm, but it is so difficult when someone interprets everything you say in the most uncharitable possible way. I think she might be the only person in the world I cannot regularly get along with. This is a confession.
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Solipsism. The way of the female.
Sounds exactly like my mother 😆 they’d get along well. Thanks for coming by, goodbye now 👋 😂
For context, recall Tony Soprano's mother and then remove any guile or manipulation aimed at some ulterior motive. My mother is exactly like this.
I feel you, brother.
Mothers, more especially grand-mothers can take a toll on a man, only another son (or grandson) can imagine.
i have an aunt who is exactly like you described. i'm so glad she lives in south africa. she's toxic and my poor mother occasionally has to deal with her over the phone.
We don't get to choose our family.
often that tendency of,
interpreting everything in the worse way possible
is a way of trying to exert control.
over you in this case 😕
but in a larger sense its usually just a frightened person trying to maintain some influence over their life and its uncontrollable circumstances.
not really personal at all.
its a relatable human mistake we can forgive our parents for making.
hopefully ❤️
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🫂🫂 Sounds like my mil. She rarely goes out and lives on the news sites and facebook and has forgotten how to people. Glad you survived and don't feel guilty for feeling your own feelings.
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Hi john 🤟🏴☠️😉 It takes a lot of self-awareness to recognize these patterns and set boundaries, even when it’s with family. Some relationships are just inherently difficult, and that’s okay. The important thing is protecting your peace while still holding space for love both can coexist.
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Bitcoin fixes thi…. oh, wait.
Ya unfortunately, my mother is not a debasement problem, a rare thing indeed.
thanks for sharing
One of the biggest parts of maturing into adulthood is realizing not everyone thinks or feels like you and that’s okay
They call it narcissism, and there are many parents like that. Don’t be sorry for her or yourself, just keep a healthy distance and shallow conversation and you’ll be fine.
