I like how you assume I must be Jewish.

Do you accept the right of Israel to exist in peace? If yes, then that automatically implies the inherent right to defend themselves.

Self defence is not for political gain. It is existential. It is costly and destructive. As long as one people or state attacks other peoples or states, they should expect them to defend themselves. Unfortunately, this causes death and destruction.

Framing the situation in abstract terms is irrelevant. We have to ground all consideration of real options and their consequences in terms of the concrete situation, not disembodied absolutisms.