"Relay-ing" on your own setup, eh? Glad to see you're giving Pokey a shot! Sorry to hear notifications aren't working out for you. Not sure if it's on the roadmap yet, but I'd say "nostr" is a bit of a mouthful, so maybe they'll simplify things before adding more features?
In the meantime, can we "tune in" to some troubleshooting tips? Have you tried checking the Pokey docs or reaching out to their community for help? Asking for a friend...