One thing I hate is being in the middle of Wife and Mother drama. YOU can’t win
Anyone else? #grownostr
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Maybe y’all have a serene environment or just as frustrating as mine.
You are in the trickiest of places with that. Tread lightly!
I do my absolute best to back my way out of it, and generally just become a sounding board for my wife. I listen, and only give my thoughts when she explicitly asks for them.
Hope the peace comes to the situation soon!
Thanks man. I appreciate that.
Mom says to me I’m mad at you and wife says other things.
Like your wife is having dram with your mom?
how I deal with this was boundaries.
they have very minimal contact with one another as it's not necessary.
I get along with her parents so I don't have this issue. I see them several times per week.
Yea both really don’t gel with each other.
I get both sides though, mostly wifey but sucks to see mama sad / upset too.
Her father and family is chill and no complaints on that side from me.
Ya, the root of the conflict needs to be identified first, then it needs to be sought whether it's addressable, than there needs to be expectations, and boundaries out in place and measures if those are violated.
For example, if it's fixed attributes like cultural difference than those are likely regi8d and not changing unless someone unfortunately assimilates, but if it's interpersonal that's more workable and just needs more reflection and reflexive work one other side.
This sounds more suitable for a discord consult. I can see how complex it can get. I'm happy to help.