Monkey see, monkey do.

Hitting kids only teaches them that to get what you want you have to be bigger & stronger & "in charge."

I have friends who hit their kids & they seem to just mentally block out the fact that when their son gets frustrated he walks around the room & hits everyone. They always act surprised. I have seen people literally hitting their kids saying " We. Dont. Hit." In time with the smacks.

It's so fucking obvious. And it has been clearly shown to lower IQ & reduce self control.

You are demonstrating that when you can't outsmart your kid you will resort to violence rather than distractions or instruction or anything else. So they will also resort to violence rather than learn to think.

If your logic worked then we should just hit old people when they get back to a stage when they don't understand either.