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Last one about my little one today, promised! 😅

Yesterday, his football team had their second game, and they got annihilated by a technically superior and more coherent team.

My little one was understandably very disappointed so I thought it'd be the prefect opportunity to teach him about the importance and necessity of defeat in life. He didn't say much in the moment, but I think he got it.

How do you dads out there deal with situations where your kids limitations are exposed, when they don't do as well as their peers etc? What has been your mental dialogue in these situations?

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Atman 2y ago

As a father, you have to make sure your child feels, every time, everywhere, that your love for him is unconditional, regardless of the type, level of physical performance in any game/sport. Admire how your child's vital energy is expressed and actualized in every step, stride or run and keep your heart always open for him. Never judge or compare it whit any other idea or feeling that you have previously. Only watch and love.

398ja 2y ago

Absolutely, and this is how I roll!

But it's also unrealistic to expect not to judge in those moments, we need to prepare our kids for adulthood, to be independent and compete for scarce resources...

Atman 2y ago

Well, life isn’t competition/score, is combativeness, no matter the results. Combativeness is self-expression of energy that you/him is.

Daryn Cavalier 2y ago

Limitation exposing situations are some of the most important moments in our life.

They come with a lot of complicated emotion, fear being a big one.

I do my best to tell my kids to feel fear as fully and as openly as any other emotion. To treat it with curiosity and to listen to what it is trying to tell us.