Hi there, I'm going to try to explain:
1 If You manualy open a channel to soneone else, You peer your lightning node to that person first. After that You can open a channel with that person. By doing that, You're making an on chain transaction in order to get the sats within lightning. After confirmed on chain, You have now the amount of sats outbound liquidity to the other lightning node. The other lightning node has now inbound liquidity of that same amount from You. This means that You'll be able to transact via lightning to him or route a lightning payment via him further on lightning (assuming he has lightning channels setup to others too.)
2 Phoenix wallet is a self custodial wallet. However it takes care of all the lightning setup for You. So that means that instead of You setting up manualy lightning channels, it does it for You. It's an easier experience for non technical people to use.
3 One don't need sats on lightning to have inbound liquidity. The only requirement is that someone else opened a channel to his lightning node. In the case of using Phoenix wallet, he or she can receive it anyway.
4 This hypothetical scenario is not really clear to me, but I think that it would involve the breach remedy:
Breach Remedy: Since lightning transactions are a timestamped list of signed transactions where the split of funds varies, it is possible for one party to attempt to cheat (breach trust) by unilaterally closing a channel with an old transaction where they hold more funds. This results in a time-lock, and during this period, the aggrieved party can not only recover their own funds but swipe the entire capacity of the channel using a “Breach Remedy” transaction, as described in the Bitcoin Lightning Network white paper.
It's great that You're exploring #Bitcoin Lightning and ask questions.
I hope that I was able to give You some answers here.
Cheers! 👍