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This is like a really loooong bridge.

My Uber driver was like, "let me know if you want me to play some music for you. I don't want you to have a boring drive." I was like, "oh, I’m so deep in my thoughts I don’t think that’s possible. But please feel free to play some music if you’d like." He says, "oh no, I’m good" (I notice his AirPods). "I just want to make sure you won’t feel your drive is boring." I respond, "thank you, I’ll think about it and let you know. Right now, silence feels great."

Then I wonder, "am I a bad customer for not wanting to make small talk and engage with my driver? I just don’t feel like talking right now, and silence does feel good."

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inpc 4mo ago

Sounds like he’s fine and respectful for asking, just continue in your thoughts and don’t worry about it imo,

rädore 4mo ago

For 30 years I engaged people in small talk because:

1) I felt awkward not to speak to the other person,

2) I felt the other person is feeling awkward

3) I felt it was impolite not to speak to the other person

4) I felt the need to be the person to make the other person feel comfortable

5) I subconsciously felt the need to be liked?

6) maybe there are more reasons maybe those are it

But when not too long ago I passed my mid 40s I had an “ahh” moment - I am a fully grown, mature adult male, an immigrant, a husband of 20years, a father of four, a business owner of 20 years from zero to a seven figure annual revenue, experienced more than the generations behind me and equal or more than the two still living generations in front of me - no more immature feelings nor feelings of immaturity.

Elvis 4mo ago

looks like San Rafael --- one bridge I hate is San Mateo