My daughter has armbarred and choked me more times than I can count. Shes more the BJJ girl, then my middle son is more the wrestler. The baby… I’m not sure because he prefers to lose so I can tickle him more.
I used to teach self defense classes and I totally recommend, especially women, know jiujitsu ground game plus wrestling/judo break holds standing.
The biggest point is how to regain and maintain space between you and your aggressor.