To be fair this is a tough situation to be in. I understand the horrible part of giving a phone to a child, but sometimes is the only choice you have if you are in public. If you don’t and the kid keeps crying what do you get? People making faces at you and the kid for disturbing their shopping experience, or you get judge because you are trying to calm the kid to avoid this; either way you are judged. We should be kinder when we see this, and understanding of the situation
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Let the people judge. If your kid is beyond reason its time to leave the situation. I judge 100% the action of giving the phone. The crying part, every parent has been there. You calm your child, attend to their needs.
There’s zero excuse letting a child check out on a phone to avoid having a human emotion.
Are you serious?
This is what frustrates the hell out of me. People can be all in on Bitcoin, Christianity, Community or whatever else is needed to re-build a strong society but meanwhile their kids are glued to screens, drop their kids off at public school & eat the standard American diet.
Wake the fuck up!!!! Our enemies have infiltrated our food, media, education system.
If avoiding judgement is more important to you than your kids emotions, then the fault is on you to begin with. There are several valid ways to deal with this type of situation in public, but probably all of them include severe judgement from people. And in front of my kids well-being and their emotions, people can go fuck themselves. I'll use that stage to teach my kid all the valuable lessons available in that situation while also acknowledging that *I* am the reason they're in an uncomfortable situation at a time where they didn't have the mental capacity to be in that situation.
People forget the whole thing and just focus on what makes them triggered. I acknowledge giving a phone to a kid is horrible (see my initial comment). My point is: if you see this happening and they are strangers to you, just mind your own business and learn from that: don’t do it to your kids. As a bitcoiner just stay humble and let normies live their lives. You don’t go around judging and getting triggered by everyone.
If know them and care about them, offer help and advise, if not, just mind your own business; no need for disapproving looks
Okay, you believe people should mind their own business. Do you think phones are an acceptable solution to a kid who is crying in public? Should people judge a parent whose kid is crying in public?
Phones are bad for kids; however I can only control what I do with my kids. Other kids are not my business, who am I to judge? Some sort of high righteous power? What happened to kindness? Let them worry about their journey. To be honest I f**ing hate people judging and making nasty looks to my kids when in public as they might be loud and energetic
Dang it, looks like my post got stuck in "drafts". Oh well, now I'm necro-posting for posterity. Don't feel the need to reply, if I was still invested then I would have re-written this.
Judging is awesome. The only way we are able to make decisions at all is by judging the actions we have available to us. And the only way we can learn from past mistakes is by judging past actions. Judinging other people's actions specifically is called learning things the easy way. The hard way is having to learn from one's own past.
Humans are incredibly adapted social creatures, to the point where even when we absolutely hate someone's guts, we will STILL subconaciously base our responses on the premise of having some kind of practical dialogue with them. If someone is punched, why do you think they feel a strong urge to punch them back? Sure they are upset, but far more than that they are confused. Why did they get punched? What did they do wrong? What was the other person trying to accomplish? Did the other person make a mistake?
They feel the urge to punch the other person back in order to hopefully find out the answer to those questions. They are "teaching the other person a lesson", but they are just as much trying to learn a lesson themselves. After all if they had considered getting punched as a serious possibility then they wouldn't be angry; they would just be disappointed.
To be clear: dispensing some kind of ironic retribution is not even close to an ideal response to being wronged. Even afterward it's very easy for both sides to come out learning nothing useful. Ideally the victim isn't ignorant and confused in the first place, but even then there are often other ways to engage with the other person's behavior and figure out how things are.
In your case, the people around you might be subjected to a crying child, and so they feel compelled to It sounds like the reason you dislike being judged isn't because judging is wrong, but because you are simply insecure and you don't want to have to engage with this kind of public dialogue, no matter how relevant it is to your life.
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