We all need to pay attention to Rapoport's advice on constructive disagreement:
https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Rapoport's_Rules
Especially in text media with no emotion-conveying side-channels.
I know I do...!
Discussion
Some people just wanna be edgelords though. Mature conversation is not what theyβre here for.
This is a problem, too.
Marie's yesterday's insulter is pure edgelord, that can't be fixed except by muting.
The seed oil thread that triggered Noshole was much less so, and drama could have been 100% avoided with better constructive disagreement skills.
It seemed to me Shishi wanted to be rude. I donβt believe they wanted to be so rude that Noshole would leave Nostr. But I donβt get the impression that having a mature conversation was a priority.
Not quite edgelord material maybe, and not comparable rudeness to Joel. But still intentionally rude.
Rapoportβs rules ensure clear communication of IDEAS. But if intents and emotions are what youβre trying to convey over ideas, then being rude is an extremely effective communication tool. They got their point across.