Homeschooling Parents (or those with strong-willed children) - How do you maintain patience?

This is the first year my eldest is in Grade 1 (we opted out of Kindergarten due to COVID BS), and I finally feel like I have a bit of breathing room. However, the plan is to resume homeschooling by Grade 3 when I'm better prepared to take on the responsibility. There is too much to juggle right now but I’m actively streamlining things.

My 6-year-old tends to be quite challenging and we often engage in power struggles to accomplish daily tasks, even as simple as getting him to wear underwear or pick up after himself.

I want to homeschool again, but I'm afraid I might become resentful if I don't change our approach. Managing my own motivation for house duties is already tough enough, so I'm in need of new strategies to prevent us from constantly butting heads in the day-to-day.

Does anyone have any helpful tips or resources? #homeschool #grownostr #strongwilledkids

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This sounds like it is going to be a perfect resource. Thank you! πŸ™βš‘οΈ

That's great to hear! I wish you luck and thank you for the ⚑ πŸ«‚

The best piece of advice that has helped me to be more patient with my kids and the kids in our homeschool co-op is to remember that children are rarely acting out or being difficult "on purpose" , they are not deliberately trying to be difficult, they usually have an unmet need or are unsure of how to act, or just not thinking. If you can remember that, it helps to frame the situation and then you as the adult can step back and remain calm. Other than that, having a plan for how to respond to a behavior beforehand helps.

Also determine bare minimums for everything from homeschool to chores to behavior. Once you've met the minimum it is easier to recognize which battles to fight and which fires to put out.

This has helped my wife and I with our 3 schoolaged kids who are all strong willed or headstrong

Good luck and God bless

This is definitely important to remember! Behaviour is a form of communication and I KNOW that, I’ve worked with vulnerable populations my whole life…I guess it’s easy to forget when you are being challenged by your spawn. πŸ˜…

I sent you a dm

I’m always working on my patience. Even though we have always homeschooled I definitely still get tested. Every day I strive to be better then the day before.

Have you read this one? it's great and a pretty quick read with a great format

https://ardhindie.com/you-cant-make-me-but-i-can-be-persuaded-revise/

Unfortunately patience is not one of my strong suits I struggle and fail often. No kid is the same and there is no right or best way all the time in every situation and is so different i found best solution when I can't take it is to step out for like a second and refocusing on what the point/goal is in the situation. I pray all day everyday for patience