Now I've added you from here (Nostr). I hadn't previously. I've added my Akkoma account here but when I tried to add this Nostr account from Akkoma it said "request sent" and I most definitely haven't seen a request at this end.
As noted earlier I have all kinds of security settings on my Akkoma instance so maybe that makes it non-compatible (I can't use Elk FE on my Akkoma instance for example of things that are limited by security settings).