Yeah that doesn’t seem conducive to the long term health of either partner either. I wouldn’t want to be in charge of everything. Life is hard! I want her to take charge of the stuff that she can handle best, or is motivated to do.

We also meet and keep one another appraised of what is going on in our respective areas of responsibility. I wouldn’t want either of us to be caught flat footed if someone gets sick, or gets hit by a bus. 🚌