Yep, I get it. Although as an introvert loner there were never big to-dos. And being with the hubs for over 20 years, we're pretty set in our ways. The kid likes to make a big deal now, so it's fun to see him excited. I also feel like it's your day and you should do what you want. Spending time alone is how you recharge. And yes a funeral is for the living, so they should put the fun in it!