As we are mostly in agreement, I'll tackle what I see as the root disagreement here:
> I don't think people are bad at prioritising what matters. People are generally quite good at prioritising what matters ... to them. What trade offs matter to them. This often means they're bad at prioritising what matters to others, but such is life.
This is the core disagreement. I honestly think that people suckn at prioritising what really matters. They suck at event knowing what should really matter for them. They are great at prioritising what is convenient, familiar and sounds "proper" in the circles where they want to feel accepted. If folks where good at prioritising what matters we wouldn't have a society of mostly phone addicted, overweight, infertily, depressed folks struggling with anxiety and existential dread slaving out to look a bit less desperated tham they really are.
And yes, I think we need to be annoying and remind them that eating their brocoli and being mindful about their data and the software they use (plus who is pulling the strings behind the software they use), even if they think they "know" what is good for them. At least as long as the fast majority of people, including Nostr users, don't act according to their supposedly values.