What’s overly concerned?

Empathy and emotional intelligence are important. I completely agree with you about where that’s rooted. What I’d say is that people who let their emotions rule them tend to not have emotional intelligence or empathy, even if they claim to value it; like narcissists, they really only want it for their own benefit and aren’t concerned with reciprocating it or exploring how to do so.

I don’t know about your experience, but most people I’ve heard speaking about emotional intelligence actually do seem to have it.

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Idk, seems to me there are a lot of people who try to escape the fact that they can't rationally support some belief they have by claiming it's a result of their superior emotional intelligence.

I'm not really sure that adding modifiers to intelligence really does anyone any good.

The capacity for humans to think and feel are on a spectrum. During early points of maturation of consciousness, the human being will rely heavily on one dominant function versus the other. This is the foundation of the so called revered psychometric tests such as the Myers Briggs which splits groups into oppositional dichotomies. The foundation of personality psychology claims that humans are fixed and do not develop beyond these dichotomies.

But those who have advanced onto consciousness and spirituality have drastic shifts from their dominant functions into other aspects. For example I used to test as an INTJ and was heavily logical and rationally oriented. Part of my developmental path was to open up access to my emotional experience and intuition. Many people have the opposite path. It is about allowing other skills and abilities to come online and then having the wisdom and discernment about which skill or function to use.

It really is no different from min / maxing a character in a video game. Except this character is you and you realize you’re in a matrix. It’s fun when you get the hang of it.

But yes, anyone who is stuck on one side of the spectrum with the inability to be flexible as a situation demands, will obviously struggle to adapt and will lead to conversations like this one.