I use c-lightning with some plugins:

- Lightning Address: https://github.com/elsirion/clnurl

- NWC: https://github.com/thesimplekid/cln-nostr-wallet-connect

- Actually handling zaps: https://github.com/thesimplekid/cln-zapper-rs

However, plan in a weekend for setup... because aside from those, you need c-lightning and bitcoin installed and running - and that takes a hot minute to configure.

Feel free to ping me if you do get stuck - CLN is one of my least favorite bits of software for a reason lol...