I’ve only done this like once or twice myself so i can’t do a good job explaining more 😂

You should look at the tx in the wallet you used to send it and see if it shows that option. It isn’t always, has to be enabled beforehand i believe. Somehow. #tardstr sorry

If you have change coming back to yourself you can also make a transaction with that change utxo with a higher fee, this is referred to as child pays for parent or cpfp as miners need to include the first tx to get the fees for the later.