Anyone else kind of concerned about the metadata we publicly build on #nostr?

I think follow lists should be private. Also multiple. I want an influencer follow list, a family follow list, friends follow list and more.

I want apps to focus on certain follow lists.

If someone wants to know if I am following them, they should send a private note of a specific nip that prompts me to answer. I tell my app to allow forever. Maybe it auto publishes an answer once a week.

If I unfollow that person, the app ignores the request. To protect against noise/spam. If you get no response, I either don't follow you, or I'm offline, or I refuse to tell you.

If you don't want me see your content, encrypt it.

Do you think this is a good idea?

Anyone want to help me flesh it out and turn it into a nip or an official discussion?