ive installed my own relay using #MyNode but cant connect to it for some reason. maybe because its behind tor?
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Correct, unless you use a dedicated IP address and do port forward in the router to yourr node you won't be able on remote. Maybe in the future we will have a clinwt with TOR capability, thus, we can use the relay as intended
Locally you are able, if you login to your relay from localhoat (using your local IP) , you will get the relay address with the port to add in Amethyst or damus . obviously it will work only on your WiFi, while remote it won't
And forgot to mention, if you are using Amethyst, just turn off the globe in the relay from damus, simple setup and your spam, if any, is prettyy much gone