conversation these days results in a lot of psychological projection AKA assuming/inventing that people mean something or have some subtext that isn't there.

Dōgen called it leaking. He means that rather than hearing, seeing and receiving inputs and information from the world the person is adding their own spin to everything and is coming from a place (in their mind) that has already decided.

hint: when you project, you are telling the person you project onto exactly how you think and more often than not, it has nothing to do with what the person you project onto is intending.

people who project are easy to win arguments with because they play the game with their hand showing, and they do so willfully

asking people questions rather than assuming and inventing meanings is the antidote.

just sayin'

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection

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