Ah okay, cool, or I guess the communi-key npub could just DM you the notification (or an npub approved by the communi-key to send support DMs could).
On the screening side, I'm not quite sure how much screening logic a strfry relay can be set up to do before it starts to smoke. Or how a strfry relay can be integrated with an external service to handle heavier loads, via those policy plugins and stuff. I'm sure it's all doable though.