Maybe try a different kind of first date where you’re both doing something, like a nature hike. 🤷♀️
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Yeah, a "just hanging out" type of date is a great idea 💯. Like an activity you'd enjoy on your own but could be enhanced bringing someone along. Ironically the stereotypical "dates" are pretty abstracted and unrelated to 90% of ongoing activities in a real relationship.
And don’t ignore the mind-body connection. If you get her heart rate up, that will have more impact, emotionally, than a static activity.
Hikes are bad first dates because she might not feel safe enough to be alone with you yet