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Yes. But if someone was “meant” for you, but you missed a bus and never met them. But lets say that guy is still that person, okay. So now 10 years pass, he is living his life, learning changing hobbies, views, jobs… You also tho. You now here on nostr and he is somewhere else. Very likely you made different choices and maybe even tho still could be great for each other, with your choices you drifting now to be less compatible if you finally meet, 10 years from today. If we have agency over our choices but there is person or people foe each of us, I think there is a window where we can meet each of them and grow together. Then that train passes and there is another and another potential soul mate… 🚂

Mallory 2y ago

I dated the same guy, 4 years apart. We had no contact during the intervening years. Weirdly the first time we dated he had just had his heart smashed in a breakup. Second time we dated I had just had my heart smashed after a 3 1/2 year relationship. We had no contact during that time. We were like emotional support daters. 😂 He met his wife while we were dating the second time. God I hope to one day make a man as ridiculously happy as she made him.

I know a couple who knew each other in high school. They met again in their 60’s and fell head over heels in love. They both work in the same industry that is not common to where they are from. I’ve heard other similar stories.

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Alex_a 2y ago

All this relationship stuff is so complicated

Mallory 2y ago

😂 It can be.

nobody 2y ago

one mistake could be trying to negotiate a prenup !

Mallory 2y ago

I’m totally getting a prenup. Hopefully it will never have to be used. I want to know we can discuss hard topics and find resolution before getting married.

nobody 2y ago

that's nice for you sweetheart ;)

Alex_a 2y ago

Phew, I just moved out... it's still complicated for me.

Mallory 2y ago

Whew that’s a fresh breakup 🫂💜

Alex_a 2y ago

To be honest, the end was foreseeable for a while. It just took until I drew the consequences

nobody 2y ago

its very simple unless you overthink it

Tetsu Tamasi 2y ago

I don’t think it’s that complicated. We just make it complicated. People like to have everything and often let the relationship take all the hits. Or are so fed up with their boring lives, that when they find someone special they hang on their new partner as if he’s their savior from everything thats horrible in their lives, suffocating their new special person. I think people are often fed up, beat up by the system, hurt by their previous relationships and lazy to work through any difficulties they encounter when they find someone. And sometimes they just hangover that day and they just pass on their chance for happiness… 🚶🏻‍♂️

nobody 2y ago

your speed and blah blah blah show me you are another version of a specially programmed nostr:npub13wfgha67mdxall3gqp2hlln7tc4s03w4zqhe05v4t7fptpvnsgqs0z4fun

Tetsu Tamasi 2y ago

Penis

Mallory 2y ago

I think happiness and contentment can be shared and created with another. One person can’t be the source of another’s happiness. That’s too much to ask of a person.

YES

💜💯

PENIS TO THAT

🍻😂🫂💜 saw that image years ago and it stuck with me 🙏🏽

Alex_a 2y ago

I also believe that no one is responsible for the happiness of the other. You have to take care of your own happiness.

Tetsu Tamasi 2y ago

Its all about compatibility, timing and will

SMS 2y ago

Decompressing is not a bad idea before an inevitable implosion.

🤙🏻

nostrich

it is just timing

💯

I’ll add I ran into him again simply because I went to the post office not realizing it was Columbus Day. Passed him and thought was that so and so outside that coffee shop? Wouldn’t have actually talked to him had the post office not been closed. Thought it’s funny since it was Columbus Day on Monday. There’s also a whole chain reaction to us dating a second time and him messaging his now wife who he had a crush on in high school. Life can be a complicated web.