How do you express/process your rage and anger I'm a healthy way?
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Music, drawing, dance, poetry — turn your fire into fuel.
Exercise and moments of solitude outside
It very much depends on what is the source of rage and anger.
If it’s something I can control, physical activity helps - anything vigorous that cleans your head and helps you change things with calm mind.
If it’s something I cannot control, alone time in nature helps me to process and accept things as they are.
The trickiest is when I actually can do something about that, but I don’t want to because reasons. Then it usually quietly bubbles inside until it gets manifested. I still have to work on this one, but I’m getting better at letting things go.
Even when I really shouldn’t.
Give me an example of something you can control vs something you can't.
I have a coworker whose job performance constantly frustrates me (because it directly affects me) and working with him is sometimes a source of anger for me. Going for a run and then calmly explaining what needs to be changed or making some workarounds myself resolves it just fine.
Staying in work related field - sometimes I find myself in an impossible position, because something has changed within the client company. Usually a change in management and shifted expectations and because of that we are not aligned anymore. Walking away is not usually an option, because I am bound by some contract. Clearing my head in the nature helps with shifting my priorities, accepting the changes and reorienting.
The third kind are mostly interpersonal problems. There is almost always something to do about it, but I don’t want to face the consequences, sometimes worry if the aftermath wouldn’t be worse than the problem in the first place.
Sounds like you know yourself pretty good.
Curious on that third one. What are some consequences you don't want to face?
Like… divorce?
Combat.
i just remind myself that that's stupid and pointless and that usually speeds things up to where im chill again
Feel it, go into it rather than away from it. There are powerful ways of alchemising anger, especially powerful for women. But because my anger is suppressed and doesn’t come to me naturally, when it does come up my main task is to welcome it and feel into it.
sports
Awareness of its sensations on the body and equanimity or non reaction or over reaction to those sensations.
The choices are to express it, repress/suppress it or observe it.