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Nah I didn’t say that either. Although, your romanticized view of marriage is a modern phenomenon. Before industrialization there was more emphasis on the contractual and „evolutionary“ aspects of marriage. These things do not exclude each other btw

Laeserin 1y ago

This is contradicted by the romantic ideal already evident in the Old Testament, Homer, the fairy tales, and other ancient stories.

Some people never achieved that, and they are to be pitied, but it was always considered a wonderful, desirable thing. Humans have always fallen in love, and romantic love was always what good parents wished for their children because it lessens the burdens of life. The main difference, was that the ancients knew that romantic love can grow _within_ a marriage, rather than merely _before_ one.

What the romantic era did was raise it to a higher level of abstraction, by showing it as an interplay between the feminine and the masculine, rather than merely between two particular people.

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imnuso 1y ago

First of all, I didn't say that romantic motives didn't exist, but they weren't emphasized as much as other motives. My statement is true. Read any scientific book or paper on the subject and there is a 99% chance that it will confirm what I said.

The romanticism of love in marriage has indeed abstracted the pre-existing concept and now dominates the subject, so that the other aspects of marriage become less visible. Exactly my point: the romanticized view of marriage is a modern phenomenon.