why do you think this is? i feel like it is easy to think of the two as unrelated or even opposed.
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Welp, let’s try this again. What I said was:
Ya great point! And on the surface I would agree. However, anecdotally I’ve found it actually works differently.
Imagine you meet a woman who’s a 10/10. As soon as she opens her mouth though, she says some wacko stuff and you find that she’s just a terrible person. She automatically is much less attractive.
There’s 2 paths men take, and I think one is wrong on a fundamental level.
1. You’re looking for an outlet to fulfill your erotic desires, so you look for a woman who’s very attractive, and her personality be damned. You’re just looking to hookup, so who cares if she’s a narcissistic psycho? You just wanna get your rocks off.
2. You’re seeking a woman who will be a life long companion to you, and who can help raise your children. So as you get to know pretty women, you’re far more concerned about the fullness of her character (or lack thereof). You find that beauty isn’t just physical appearance but it’s her whole being. I.e. body, mind, soul.
So what I guess I’m saying yet not saying is ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’ to use the old cliche. How does one view women? Are they a means to end? Are we just squirrels chasing a nut? Or are we men who see women as companions?
My 2 sats, fellas ✌️
what about a third option where you might only care about someone’s character and disregard their appearance. that seems like it would also be bad…
Dang… mic drop… you got me, mate
I think that would be the MOST honorable form of love to be honest. Because you’re not getting anything from them (visual pleasure). I mean you’re getting a great companion in the relationship, but still.
My comment here☝️ is slightly off topic from where we originally started. But dang… I didn’t think about that 🤔🤯
It would take a MUCH better man than me to find a woman attractive, with no regards for her appearance and based solely off her character.