I might be behind on this but there's a very cool feature on https://metadata.nostr.com that allows you to pick a relay-per-followee which means you can choose a specific relay to @ someone. Log in to https://metadata.nostr.com, select Contacts, choose your contact and then input your preferred relay. Maybe you can already do this on the client you're using. Maybe not - Such is the way in this here nostrspace.

As you'll see, you also have an option to choose a pet name 😛 But I'll keep the ones I use private 🤓.

PV 💜