I always thought having a voluptuous figure was another one, but she claims it is the median taste. That surprised me. I'm still not sure if she's right, but my life makes more sense if she's right, so I'm willing to entertain the idea.

It's very difficult to figure out what men find attractive because men are always hedging their bets when you ask their opinion directly. So, her method of judging by what men do, rather than what they say, seems sound.

I can't find a single man willing to admit to liking anything over a C-cup, for instance, but this always seemed odd to me, as that's a below-average cup size. Are most breasts unappealing to most men? Doubt.

She's just like:

Ignore them. They're lying.

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> It's very difficult to figure out what men find attractive because men are always hedging their bets when you ask their opinion directly. So, her method of judging by what men do, rather than what they say, seems sound.

Correct. Consider another observation she made earlier in the article: that men will generally be rejected, so they should approach many women. Speaking as a man who was rejected many times, I can assure you that men seek every conceivable advantage to improve the odds. Speaking uncomfortable truths may be what she asked for, but that’s not the most prudent approach (any man will learn quickly).

Communication is always about persuasion. The blue jay chirping in the tree isn’t making a truth claim. He’s warning other jays not to approach—persuading them to steer clear. Communication MAY be about sharing truth—that is, knowledge the speaker believes to be true. But it is ALWAYS with the intent to persuade.

In the context of men answering women’s questions about beauty, do not expect truthfulness, especially when there’s a romantic potential between them.

> She's just like: Ignore them. They're lying.

She’s right.