Yes, that's true.
I've experienced this with some things:
being a Christian,
being intelligent,
having blue eyes.
The men who want those things are adamant about them and everyone else doesn't really mind.
Discussion
I always thought having a voluptuous figure was another one, but she claims it is the median taste. That surprised me. I'm still not sure if she's right, but my life makes more sense if she's right, so I'm willing to entertain the idea.
It's very difficult to figure out what men find attractive because men are always hedging their bets when you ask their opinion directly. So, her method of judging by what men do, rather than what they say, seems sound.
I can't find a single man willing to admit to liking anything over a C-cup, for instance, but this always seemed odd to me, as that's a below-average cup size. Are most breasts unappealing to most men? Doubt.
She's just like:
Ignore them. They're lying.
> It's very difficult to figure out what men find attractive because men are always hedging their bets when you ask their opinion directly. So, her method of judging by what men do, rather than what they say, seems sound.
Correct. Consider another observation she made earlier in the article: that men will generally be rejected, so they should approach many women. Speaking as a man who was rejected many times, I can assure you that men seek every conceivable advantage to improve the odds. Speaking uncomfortable truths may be what she asked for, but thatās not the most prudent approach (any man will learn quickly).
Communication is always about persuasion. The blue jay chirping in the tree isnāt making a truth claim. Heās warning other jays not to approachāpersuading them to steer clear. Communication MAY be about sharing truthāthat is, knowledge the speaker believes to be true. But it is ALWAYS with the intent to persuade.
In the context of men answering womenās questions about beauty, do not expect truthfulness, especially when thereās a romantic potential between them.
> She's just like: Ignore them. They're lying.
Sheās right.
This is a long article. Still not done, but hereās another generalizable observation:
āA beauty ideal actually needs to be unattainable. If it were attainable, it wouldn't be useful for discriminating between the best potential mates, since all of them would have attained it.ā
I think this applies to many virtues in many contexts, not just beauty/mating. For example, consider freedom. That is, freedom from coercion by others. Modern Western civilization is perhaps the freest in history. Yet I and others desire even more freedom. Even less coercion.
Itās perhaps comforting to realize that the ideal is approachable but unattainable. Believing the ideal is attainable leads to sufferingāsince every outcome will fall short. Believing the ideal is approachable leads to effort, improvement and (hopefully) satisfaction.
That's why it's so insididous to make teenage boys the female beauty ideal. It is unattractive, but attainable. Just remove all of the girly bits, shave your head, and starve yourself.