You read my entire post but were unable to walk away with it's meaning.
Men who restrain the emotional state merely do not cowtail to the default, social environment which is filled with feminine social queuing, both positive and negative.
In other words, men must be emotional leaders, secure and intentional, instead of emotional followers, being pulled into the turbulence of feminine emotional control.
It sounds like your husband is in control of his emotions and therefore secure, not being thrown violently or framing every day by your day to day mood. This is good.
Controlling and restraining emotions doesn't mean never expressing them, it means not monopolizing the emotional space (reserved for women and children) and not orienting their life compass on it.