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Women use performative emotions as a form of behavioral currency to subconsciously transact within the social environment.

Boys follow and swim within the bounds of environment, ideally being raised out of it by their father in order to withold emotions consciously, opting out and rising above these base level dynamics.

Women can tell the difference between adult boys and men by this, and punish/exploit the former for their own sponsorship, and reward/follow/submit to the latter.

This is a deep truth.

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AnnSofiNovelist 5mo ago

This is shit. I married my husband because he was the most mature and strong man I've ever met, who also knows how to let out emotions.

God made emotions. Jesus cried.

Emotions aren't bad, they are not to be controlled or withheld.

Emotions are supposed to be felt, because they are indicators of what is going on. They are valuable.

Crying isn't female or feminine, it's human, or else men would be born without tear ducts, but they're not.

I feel so grieved whenever I hear men talk about how emotions are bad, or wrong, or how somehow anger is allowed, but not sadness, hurt, or grief.

There are countless men in the bible, strong, mature men, who cry.

A man who lacks emotions is NOT a man I'd consider mature, but rather stunted.

I'm not saying I think men need to cry all the time, or be hyper emotional. But I am saying that if it is an emotional situation, God made man to also be able to express emotions as a healthy part of their being!

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FikaTimeBooks.com 5mo ago

The depth of hatred for emotions Laser exhibits is embarrassing.

Real men balance being dangerous and kind.

Jdwagner17 5mo ago

He said withhold, not erase.

FikaTimeBooks.com 5mo ago

Thank you for adding evidence to my point.

Jdwagner17 5mo ago

Sometimes we help others by being strong for them when we may feel weak. I think we love our own emotions, and it is a strength to be able to withhold them when deemed necessary. I’m not speaking for anyone else. I don’t equate withholding emotions with hating them.

FikaTimeBooks.com 5mo ago

What does "being strong" mean?

Jdwagner17 5mo ago

Maybe doing the right thing, even when those around you will not like it. When you feel like doing the comfortable thing, but the right thing will require you to experience emotions and feelings that you don’t want to experience. Letting someone you care dearly about experience a difficult life experience so that they can grow stronger. I would imagine people who have children understand this conundrum.

FikaTimeBooks.com 5mo ago

You're being a bit more descriptive about what the right thing looks like, which is to not continue enabling unhealthy behavior, but how do you define "stronger," or rather the non comparative form of that word, "strong"?

Jdwagner17 5mo ago

You are misunderstanding. I don’t know what is right, that’s why I said maybe. At best, I know what is right to me/for me. Strong can mean many things.

I decided to look at the dictionary, was curious.

“able to withstand great force or pressure.”

I would say pressure comes in many forms, including emotions. It’s relative as strengths and weaknesses are relative to some baseline, real or desired.

If one cannot withhold emotions and another can, one has a tool the other does not. How useful it is… depends. Tools can reinforce our strength. Like a gun, it can be helpful or destructive. The tool isn’t the issue, it’s the intentions/actions.

True kindness can only exist where there is a choice, not a compulsion.

Christ could have stopped his crucifixion, yet he allowed it. That is why he is worthy of praise. How much did he withhold? Would it have been stronger to destroy all of the Roman guard, or was his suffering a greater demonstration of strength by restraint?

Jdwagner17 5mo ago

I got it

ability to choose

That’s my answer

FikaTimeBooks.com 5mo ago

I like this definition.

FikaTimeBooks.com 5mo ago

I think that when a man can feel and emote, and also make healthy and functional choices and follow through with them, it is a good thing.

To mirror Victor Frankl, between stimulus and response is a choice, and in that space is the freedom to choose. And as a person makes choices and follows through with them relative to what's healthy, functional, and good ideas (because acting on good ideas generally produces a good life), they become more powerful and free to make new choices in their zone of proximal development.

Therefore, "the ability to choose" is a good answer.

Jdwagner17 5mo ago

Was a good question.

And you don’t have to think it, men do feel and emote. Robots don’t.

Interesting quote, I’m not familiar with that person. I’ll have to check them out.

I’m curious about “the Nature of Reality”. Would you be willing to DM me a chapter of your choice from the book? 1000 sats.

FikaTimeBooks.com 5mo ago

Sure, I'll find a chapter for you and once you DM me 1000 sats, I'll send it over.

FikaTimeBooks.com 5mo ago

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Laser 5mo ago

You read my entire post but were unable to walk away with it's meaning.

Men who restrain the emotional state merely do not cowtail to the default, social environment which is filled with feminine social queuing, both positive and negative.

In other words, men must be emotional leaders, secure and intentional, instead of emotional followers, being pulled into the turbulence of feminine emotional control.

It sounds like your husband is in control of his emotions and therefore secure, not being thrown violently or framing every day by your day to day mood. This is good.

Controlling and restraining emotions doesn't mean never expressing them, it means not monopolizing the emotional space (reserved for women and children) and not orienting their life compass on it.

Brisket 5mo ago

A man should feel all his emotions & not suppress any of them.

Feeling emotion is very different to expressing emotion. I believe emotion is a signal from your higher self that what you're experiencing is significant. Your soul is saying to you: Pay attention - this is important.

A man's value lies in his ability to find the wisdom behind the emotion. To act when others are overwhelmed with it.

Emotion for men is to be used as fuel to drive purposeful action. It's not for manipulating others to take pity on & rescue them. The best place for a man to express his doubts & fears is with his trusted brothers. He should not go home each night & weep to his wife. She is not your mother & it's unfair to place this burden on her.