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Why would I have more resistance to accepting praise or engaging in positive emotional exchanges than accepting failures and engaging in negative emotional exchanges?

I came up with a sideways answer to this question last night, just trying to remember it. I think it has to do with some kind of intersection of responsibility, self-esteem, and discipline.

But how many people really focus on the positive aspects of responsibility, self-esteem, and discipline? Like how many of us really sit and think, I was in charge of this really cool thing, was responsible for its success, because I am successful and can do cool things, and I do that all the time, because I've worked to discipline myself to be really kick-ass?

How much more kick-ass would we be if we thought this way more often?

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Sedj 2y ago

I think I remembered my sideways answer - it has to do with a materialistic outlook, where through circumstances early in life, I really wanted more stuff than I had, and wanted the stuff other people had.

I'm not going to tie these together very tightly, but something like this is very draining, can be immobilizing, and really shuts you off to many positives. I don't advocate a monk's austerity, but I can tell that moving through these barriers will be extremely important for repairing my self esteem and overall identity.