Well, you “learn” something, you are free to assign values and truths to what you have learned. Regarding “feelings”, you can let your reflexive (learned) biases take over or you can intentionally step back, lose your bias/es and look at facts of events before reacting (lose the reflexive feelings). There is a phrase by Viktor Frankl — “Between the stimulus and response, there is a space. And in that space lies our freedom and power to choose our responses. In our response lies our growth and our freedom”. (Although honestly I think the phrase was erroneously credited to him but the point of the phrase remains — I could not find it in his book ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’)