Iâve thought a lot about thisâŚ
A name is a personal label. In a social realm, it is their very identity. Calling someone by a variation they did not offer can be an honest mistake, or it can be inconsiderate. Youâre stepping over a boundary of how they choose to present themselves in the world. So they are redrawing it for you.
Itâs like giving someone a nickname. If itâs not a term of endearment, or something that they appreciate, then itâs just disrespectful.
there are 3 Dave/David dads and was an honest mistake.
he was super offendedđ¤Ż
Well, in that case, itâs unfortunate that he took offense. Thereâs *probably* something else going on in his life at the moment. Or being called âDaveâ is a special trigger for him, or whatever. You know what I mean? Not trying to psychoanalyze David from here, but⌠maybe he just doesnât like you, Dave! LOL.
đŻ he def. battling some demons. Iâve noticed his wife getting upset when he reacts to his son not getting things right on the field - THAT parent . And havenât seen her back for most of the season.đ
I get on well with all the other parents and the stunned look on some faces when he responded the way he did was evident.
Iâve never had a problem with David, but maybe I called him Dave one too many timesđ
Yesterday, I saw a dad yelling at his son to clean up all the balls theyâd hit on the baseball diamond and then lock up the field so he (the dad) could go meet up with some buddies at a bar, and the the sone should come find him later. The son was maybe 12 years old, and his body language indicated a resignation to this routine.
My heart sank. I wanted to say something the kid⌠some words of support or just to let him know that his dadâs anger had little to do with anything the son was responsible for.
Sports are supposed to be fun. Practicing alone on a Friday afternoon is supposed to be a sweet father-son bonding activity. This wasâŚnot that.
I know this story is only barely related to yours, except that, in the end, I muttered the following under my breath as I walked away, which may be helpful to you, âNot my circus, not my monkeys.â
Parenting is fucking hard, and it shows in the attitude of their childrenâs body language.
The last thing you need to do is throw gasoline on a bonfiređ
