One thing that gets lost in the whole discussion is

Which women are the most adamant that men are *universally* chivalrous?

1) The women everyone tends to be kind to, automatically. She's sweet, or cute, or elegant, of wise. She's well-liked. She's attractive. She's generous and talented. People like her.

2) The women who are as close to chivalrous as a woman can get, herself. She is measuring the men around her with the same stick, and being pleasantly surprised when some man ends up taller.

*She* would hold open the door for the little old ladies.

*She* would worry that her friends got home safe.

*She* would try to help someone, if she thought they weren't getting a fair shake.

*She* would be standing at the bottom of the tree, fretting over how to get the cat down.

*She* would want to intervene, if she saw someone being physically intimidated or threatened.

*She* would run into the burning house and try to drag out the frantic toddler trapped on the third floor.

Woman 1 and woman 2 are the same woman.

And that woman likes men who remind them of themselves, but bigger, smarter, faster, calmer, and less likely to be hobbled by whatever is currently going on in her belly or with her hormones.

A man who can be _even more her_, but only all of the best parts of her. All the parts that she likes best.