Why not have it follow the bitcoin paradigm? Services like Umbrel and Start9 make it easy enough to spin up your own node and become sovereign. And for people like my mom, who hold bitcoin but are not technical, I can act as an Uncle Jim and allow her to connect to my node. Are relays that much more complicated?
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I think umbrel is working on that.
For people who have an Uncle Jim that knows what they're doing, that's a fine solution. But my experience has been that most "Uncle Jims" don't really know wtf they're doing and end up messing things up on their relative's computer. I've fixed many an "Uncle Jim" disaster in my time. That said, I completely agree that relays should be much easier to operate and I'm sure as demand increases that ease of use will increase to the point where many Uncle Jims can do just fine.