Be me, stop using primal. It's basically not even a real nostr client. Use your own node and self host everything and then you could just update your lightning address on your profile without relying on anyone else. Alby signer does have an annoying element that it uses a random npub until you import your own to the signer. Could always try nos2x. I would recommend amethyst client and amber signer on android. If you have an iPhone... You can use damus. I hear it's good. But If you were being me, you would dump that walled garden shit show for real open source software like android.
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I run the relay on Start9, but configs are nonexistent and decent clients won’t even connect to the .onion address, or require the .onion to have wss instead of ws. Primal UI is great. Happy here until tools catch up to allow being into self-sovereignty without moonlighting as an IT guy.
What do you mean "the relay"
There are dozens of implementations. My implementation has LOTS of configurations.
The only one that shows up when I search “nostr” in the Start9 marketplaces is Nostr RS Relay. So, that’s the only one I’ve installed to the Start9 and played with. Advice welcomed!
Check out my project grain.
Github.com/0ceanslim/grain
Let me know if you have questions!
I'm gearing up for the newest release now. Everything should be pretty well documented.