Why Doesn’t the Narcissist Want Anything to Do With You After the Discard?

Because they can’t face you.

Because they’ve been exposed—and they lack the courage to deal with that.

You’ve been wronged. You’re hurting. You feel broken, disconnected from yourself, overwhelmed with emotions you can’t process.

And they know that.

But they are cowards—incapable of standing in front of you and taking responsibility.

Expecting accountability from a narcissist is like asking a five-year-old to handle adult responsibilities—they simply can’t. Emotionally, narcissists are stunted. They lack empathy and emotional maturity, usually stemming from a deeply dysfunctional or neglectful childhood, which they now overcompensate for in adulthood.

When they hurt others, narcissists often believe their actions are justified. They live with extreme insecurity and a low threshold for emotional pain. So even if it seems to outsiders like they harm others for no reason, in their mind, there's always a reason. They live trapped in their own isolated emotional bubble.

Being a narcissist isn’t glamorous—it’s miserable.

People often demonize narcissists, but beneath the surface is someone desperately seeking validation, incapable of forming real connections.

That’s the root of their rage.

As the saying goes: “Hurt people hurt people.”

Why Doesn't the Narcissist Connect With You?

1. Because they want to toy with you before discarding you completely. They're bored, entitled, and arrogant—convinced they’re superior.

2. Because they want to watch you self-destruct and feed off the chaos. They hate you for being hard to control.

3. Because they want to keep you in a state of uncertainty—hoping you'll eventually send emotional messages out of desperation. But they’ll use those messages against you. Either to manipulate you again or to "prove" to their new supply that you’re the crazy one.

They’ll twist your pain to justify their decision to leave, even parading it in front of others to gain sympathy.

And yet—your reactions are 100% human.

Why You'll Never Get Closure

The breakup makes no logical sense—just like the relationship.

You don't understand why it ended, because you never really understood what was happening in the first place.

Often, it feels like the person you were once close to has suddenly turned into a cold stranger.

So a part of you holds on to the idea that maybe they’ll come back. Especially if this isn’t the first time.

But here’s the truth:

Narcissists never take responsibility.

If they appear to, it’s only because they want something—like trying to “hoover” you back in.

And yet, your healing depends on that responsibility. You want them to admit the lies, the cheating, the emotional manipulation.

If only they could stand in front of you and say:

"Yes, I did that. I never truly loved you. I don’t even know what love is."

—Then maybe you could let go.

But they won’t. And they never will.

Because for narcissists, accountability is a threat.

The Real Reason You're Still Hoping for Closure

You want clarity.

You want to understand the chaos so you can gather the shattered pieces of yourself and move forward.

Even if it still hurts—even if you’re still grieving—understanding brings relief.

But narcissists don’t follow the same emotional logic as the rest of us.

You likely felt that during the relationship—when arguments seemed surreal, and their reactions defied reason.

You just wanted them to understand. But they never could.

When you leave a narcissistic relationship, you're often left in a fog—unsure what even happened.

It’s common to second-guess yourself, to feel like the breakup wasn’t even yours to process.

You might not even understand how things fell apart—because they often do so over something trivial.

But to the narcissist, everything is a game of control.

They avoid you now because they know you’re hurt.

Because deep down, they know they’ve wronged you.

And they know that facing you means facing consequences.

They underestimated you.

But here’s the truth: You don’t need their explanation.

You’re strong enough without it.

What they did is your closure.

They may seem to walk away unpunished. But that’s just how it looks from the outside.

The truth?

A narcissist’s life is a never-ending nightmare.

They always want more. They're never satisfied. They destroy everything they touch.

You’ll often think about justice.

You might even fantasize about revenge.

But once you understand the truth—you’ll realize neither are necessary.

Because a narcissist will never know peace.

They'll never feel whole.

They’ll always destroy what they have.

They won’t give you answers.

They won’t give you a clean goodbye.

They’ll always leave the door half-open—just in case they want to come back.

You must close that door. Lock it. Weld it shut.

Find your answers within.

And know that just one truth is enough:

You were dealing with a narcissist.

We no longer want anything from them.

Not their apology.

Not their closeness.

Not revenge.

We are decent human beings.

We believe in justice.

And justice is letting them face the life they’ve created for themselves.

Let them lie at the bottom of the grave they dug with their own hands—and move forward.

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