bluesky recently made some thing where you can hide your stuff from others and that brought a flock of like 1M users apparently
we could have that in nostr too, if relay operators wanted
i think that this idea that relays are dumb needs to end
relays need to be quite a lot smarter, then they can do things like not send events to users who are muted by the author of the event, that would bring in a lot of people i think, if bluesky's experience matters
and bandwidth and sanity - relays should not send you events at all from users that you have muted... i'm about to add this feature to my relay