#grownostr My son's cat is about 6 years old. The last 3 years she's peed on his bed several times a week. We've tried everything and gotten zero results. This past week she peed on my daughter's bed. My son loves this cat like it's his baby... I do not want to get rid of her, however we can't have this continue and start washing other bed sheets several times a week. He is absolutely devastated. I feel beyond horrible. It's time though. It was time 2 years ago. Our vet knows someone that will turn her into an outdoor cat. That's better than the alternative. 😟 I'm sorry #catstr we tried. We really did.
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Probably a kidney issue
The vet said they don't believe she has any health issues. We've taken her several times over the last couple of years.
did all you could,mate
your son will at some point appreciate that the cat is going to another loving home 🏡
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It’s wrong to just abandon a pet you bring into your home. There’s likely some issue like not cleaning the litter often enough, or something else.
You are a better person than the majority of the extended order.
Don’t beat yourself Bro. You tried really hard.
Most of us would have quit way earlier in the game.
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I love animals. A lot. Both cats and dogs. So this is hard for me too. I just realize that we can't keep doing this.
Sometimes tough love is needed. Someday you’ll tell him a story about this and it will make him laugh.
I don't think he'll laugh, but he'll understand. I'm sure he doesn't like his room often smelling like cat pee and laundry detergent. He's been getting more frustrated lately.
So sorry to hear. No idea if this will work, but if it is some sort of anxiety I have seen pure CBD oil work miracles in a cat
We thought it was anxiety because she does it when he's not around. The vet recommended anxiety meds and we tried them for the last year with no changes. 😭
He’s 6 and probably more capable than he realizes. How about if he can potty train her/him within 2 weeks they can stay?
It could just be he doesn’t like the litter or something. You can’t just get rid of pets after years! 😠
Female cats are difficult with toilet. If there is poop in the tray, they pee on rugs, blankets and, children's beds.
There are two options:
1. have at least two trays, three maybe even better, two of them should be silica based, as this occludes the pee smell better, and bentonite and similar clays are best for hiding poop smells.
2. let her go outside whenever she wants and she'll always search out a clean spot to pee.
We've tried different litter and multiple litter boxes and cleaned them every day.
Not saying you didn't do everything you could, I know what it's like, I had a little cutie that did this and it was an epic moment when I woke up hung over and she was crying to be let out so she didn't have to pee in the corner, and I clocked her right between the eyes and she shunned me for 3 days.
I stopped locking her in after that, and the problem went away.
If that's not possible, and you can't exclude her from the boy's bedroom effectively, then you need to send her away. I presume that you live in an apartment. I just moved into one, and I don't want to torture a cat by trying to contain it in here, it's basically impossible to contain cats without having problems.
I lost a pretty white and black cat in 2018 because he kept on sneaking outside my top floor apartment and most likely pissed off a negihbour by frequently breaking into their apartment through an open window, I never saw him again after one day.
Cats are not easy to keep if you don't live on ground level or live near a main road. Nothing worse than that moment you realise they have disappeared.
The other alternative is to be really strict at controlling her inputs of water and wet food. If you only feed her once a day, and don't leave dry food out (shame on you if you feed a cat grain based food anyway) you can predict when she will need the toilet and make sure you double and triple check her trays to make sure at least one has no poop in it.
If it was a neutered male you wouldn't have this problem, so long as he never got nervous while young and wasn't neutered early enough, that he started spraying.
If you think female cats peeing on blankets is bad, you should see what it's like when boy cats are nervous, usually due to dogs, other male cats or people who torment them, their pee smells WAY worse than female pee.
Had a cat like this growing up. Ended up having bladder cancer that went undiagnosed.
That could be it. The vet said she's fine e eye time we take her in, but as you said it could be undiagnosed 😭🫂
Ya man a lot of vets don’t do ct scan animals you really gotta request that and that would be super expensive (obviously).
It really sucks, my cat was my best friend growing up. I hope I’m wrong just want to prepare you mentally for a possibility.
In-laws had the same thing going on for years. The carpet, furniture, the floor vents (yes, it got aerosolized 🤢)... The dumb cat even peed in my shoes once or twice while I visited. It actually seemed vindictive, like whenever a change she didn't like happened, she'd go and pee on something we cared about.
I already didn't really like cats, but between that one and the one we've been watching now for awhile... Now I really don't like them.
I thought that too. It all started when we went on vacation for a week and had my cousin house sit and watch our cats and dog. Ever since then whenever we leave or he leaves, there's a good chance she'll do it.
It must be a neuro-/psycho-something. Something got broke, and we can't really fix it. It's like the dog that gets too spooked by lightning or fireworks and starts becoming mean, killing chickens instead of chasing off foxes, etc. Just life and the unfortunate things that sometimes happen.
At least for the most part they don't make a racket all night long every time a rat or cat is walking around.
If you don't like cat's that's because you only ever saw ones that were being abused or poorly kept by their owners. No different with other pets, either, birds and rodents in small cages, it's just wrong.
I was staying at an airbnb where the owner of the dogs there claimed to love them. She had rottweiler <3 fridge magnet. But she never took her two rotties for a walk, ever, hardly ever let them out to run around in the horse yard where they were mostly locked inside with the horse, and on top, another 3 or 4 dogs that never saw sunlight locked in another space near the front gate of the property.
No surprise you didn't like the cats if they had that kind of keepers. Humans react the same way to imprisonment too.
Try at least to have another family adopt her. It would be hard for the cat to go back to the street 😿
She'll live on a farm. No roads close by.
She’ll love that 🤞
She will love that Derek, best of luck to you and your family in these difficult times 🫂
“Sorry son, the cat ran away.”
Just checking -- are you completely sure the cat isn't sick? Suddenly starting to pee outside the litterbox can be a sign that something "back there" is infected or impacted. I've had a cat with this problem, and after she was treated she went back to peeing in the litterbox. The litterbox is where they naturally want to go.
...though if an area smells like pee, they may still treat it as the "new litterbox." Try an enzyme spray for pet stains like Little Buddy.
Before giving up, I'd get the cat thoroughly checked by your current vet and a new vet and treat sheets with enzyme sprays before laundering (laundering may not be getting all the smell out to a cat's nose). Bedrooms might also be off limits to the cat for a while until she is back to peeing in the box only.
1. Litter robot. It cleans every use so they never have to step in dirty litter.
2. Carnivore diet. Store bought cat food obliterates cat's organs (especially kidneys).
Peeing on the bed is a cry for help.
(Good luck and God bless)
Just to chime in saying I already said "shame on you if you feed it grain based dry food" :D
I babysat an old fluffy cat back in 1999 that was quite fat and had diabetes. Giving it the jab every evening at dinnertime into his scarred neck was so horrible.
IMO, humans are very close biologically to cats. And it's not purely meat, to be very clear. They also eat some leaves, especially grass. Fibre is important for digestion even for otherwise pure carnivores.
One big difference:
Small cats are adapted for small game, so high protein low fat. Cats do better on lean game.
Humans are fat scavengers, #lipovores, who also use natural sugars like honey and fruit to enhance physicality and fertility.
The point being, humans need alot more saturated fat than cats, who will get diahrea in a heartbeat if you provide too much fat.
Humans don't need as much as in 8 eggs in a day though, or gall bladder problems will come. As far as fat intake, I can attest that with the addition of substantial fibre sources (mainly spinach but almost all vegetables) a human can consume a full 1g/kg versus weight of fat in one sitting with no problem.
It's important to not forget the fibre. We can't absorb the fat all at once, our intestines should run for about 24 hours so fibre, insoluble fibre particularly, tends to adsorb oils, like grease paper, and this slows down the hydrolysis by bile.
If you leave out the fibre, it hydrolyses all at once and you get diarrhea beyond about 1/3 of that quantity. It is probably significant that lard containers sold around here list their fat/10g. This seems to be what low fibre normie diets can tolerate.
also, yes, cats need high protein, low fat. But a quality fat, that has plenty of cholesterol, saturated fats and stearates. Omega 3s like in egg yolk make their fur super pretty, so I figure probably fish is a really suitable food for them. Preferably whole, just gut the fish and slap it down and let nature take its course. Rodents also, same thing, just gut them and off they go. All the collagen in the skin is good for them too.
Sardines do wonders for eyes and coats, too.
When I get my little patch of dirt I'm getting a breeding pair of russian blues and should have got myself set up for catching fish from clean atlantic waters.. and I'll also raise rabbits, they are a favourite food, plus even ordinary rabbits make such nice fur trimmings for things, not that one needs such warmth often here but hey, gonna use it anyhow.
Wait, i know how this one turns out....
There are several sprays that can help, but I am sure you have tried this.