The 'Mandrik frens', or, the in-real-life friends that rest in the comfort of meta-services.
I just let them be; once a month I go back and post a something and address them where I can be found, from time to time some reach to me to ask what's up.
The rest, I don't bother them; each certainly might deal with life the way they see fit; that could being, social media and the internet not being so important.
As for me, as much as I can have them, it still can be lonely if there's no middle ground to hang out; but then again, one can not demand them more than what they're whiling to give.
First the bitcoin frens, now the nostr frens; here that 'missing piece of the puzzle' is found. Here I could talk topics that nowhere else; so the solitude fades.
I would say one doesn't has necessarily to cancel the other.
GM!