Yur family is probably fine and your perspective is wrong. Here's why:

When humanity moves forward, prior generations, and those with old mindsets will always appear to be backwards to the "pioneers" (credit nostr:nprofile1qqs2dg3dtrdkwz0gr3t3wenahm3dmwkzy3y9whdtlyh5kvxxacgjnugpzamhxue69uhky6t5vdhkjmn9wgh8xmmrd9skctcpzemhxue69uhk2er9dchxummnw3ezumrpdejz7qgkwaehxw309ajkgetw9ehx7um5wghxcctwvshsxwymg0 for the term). That means those who came before did in fact make a better world for those who come later, and they did so with the sacrifice of not being able to participate in said new world.

If new generations don't see the old as backwards and a bit fucked up, and instead old generations saw the youth as no good do nothings- and were right- that's a collective red flag for a society.

The divergence in perspective is a feature not a bug that we're collectively advancing. You still need to be there for them, though, especially since they know not.