I envy people with decent families. I was born into a degen idiot family who are of the lowest IQ, financially illiterate and irresponsible imbeciles. No amount of advice is taken and their actions are comically retarded and painful to watch. What do you do with a family like that?
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Love them as people...from a distance.
Why should I if they don’t love themselves?
Love them unconditionally.
No advice but feel for you. I ended up being the odd one out in my family. Had to leverage a couple of mental and emotional tricks to cope. 😮💨
I know this feel.
Yur family is probably fine and your perspective is wrong. Here's why:
When humanity moves forward, prior generations, and those with old mindsets will always appear to be backwards to the "pioneers" (credit nostr:nprofile1qqs2dg3dtrdkwz0gr3t3wenahm3dmwkzy3y9whdtlyh5kvxxacgjnugpzamhxue69uhky6t5vdhkjmn9wgh8xmmrd9skctcpzemhxue69uhk2er9dchxummnw3ezumrpdejz7qgkwaehxw309ajkgetw9ehx7um5wghxcctwvshsxwymg0 for the term). That means those who came before did in fact make a better world for those who come later, and they did so with the sacrifice of not being able to participate in said new world.
If new generations don't see the old as backwards and a bit fucked up, and instead old generations saw the youth as no good do nothings- and were right- that's a collective red flag for a society.
The divergence in perspective is a feature not a bug that we're collectively advancing. You still need to be there for them, though, especially since they know not.
I have no idea what you’re saying
I'm saying it's healthy and normal and been a common story since the start of civilization. If you were saying this about your own children instead, that would be a fail because it means your family IS going to fall behind the rest of society. It also means since it's normal, the only fucked up thing is if you didn't show loyalty to them anyway.
Make sure you develop a strong and compassionate relationship with yourself so you can be strong and compassionate with them. That might mean creating rigid boundaries and/or distance.
Surround yourself more closely with likeminded people.
Go find your true family.
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Other family member’s choices can be very hard to watch .. be the example, and especially to their kids who will think on their “different” Uncle/cousin, and maybe come to you for advice
I didn't realize we were related.
Love them.
Doesn’t mean you let them zap your energy.
Get your energy zaps here and in other positive places.
Don’t envy. It’s not always as rosy as it looks sometimes.
Let’s go!
Eh. When someone is always fking up and I’ve provided step by step instructions on how to unfk themselves and they continue - it’s hard to feel anything positive for a person like that - even if they are blood.
No doubt but try and love even if you stand by above.
Not saying it’s easy.
I’ve seen love help with crazy family matters— albeit often near too late.. but…
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Ditto
If they ask for advice don't bother giving it. Just tell them that it sounds like their situation sucks. From what I've gathered in your comments it sounds like they want validation not advice. Or just cut them off completely if you hold no connection or love for them. You don't have to keep toxic people in your life. But I don't know your situation, and maybe your question was more rhetorical.
If that's the case, I'm sorry that sucks. Not much you can do 🫂
Leave them, after you’ve given them ample opportunity to change, or accommodate your own beliefs. Cut them out of your life and focus on your own family.
Love them.
Carry on with your journey .
I have family and friends like yours.
Let them reach out to you. They are not ready.
Be the master of your domain
Celebrate what makes them happy. If someone is excited about a new vehicle that you think is a foolish financial decision say, “I’m glad you’re excited about your car, I hope you have a blast driving it!” Be known as the happy guy that is happy for others. If they have specific questions answer with generalities. If they keep digging then give them the good stuff.
Sadly, it’s the cars that are part of the problem. Cannot encourage that.
Funny/sad that this post assumes non of them are ever going to read this :D
Contact and interact with them at the bare minimum to preserve your sanity.
Love them for who they are, and who they are not. Be there for them.
It's not easy, but remind yourself that it's not necessarily your place to "do" anything. Try to stay ready to provide the support that you can if/when they are genuinely interested in helping themselves.
Honor your parents!
Pray for them and set a good example. I've been surprised at how much those two things affect friends and family over the long term.
I usually keep interactions to a minimum with those types.
My family is so huge I can pick and choose.
Guess that's one advantage to having big families. We all average around 8 kids each. Everyone. Brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins. Generation after generation.
Im thinking bad gene pool.
Were they caring and loving parents to you?
Ditch, like I did.
Then I had no choice but to work hard to earn money and gain a voice in my own home! My family was very poor back then, so I worked tirelessly to make ends meet. When I finally had some savings to spare, I bought a used yacht. This purchase gave me the courage to break free from my family of origin. https://www.yachttrading.com/yachts/cheap-yachts-for-sale/
they are your greatest motivation and thus most priceless asset, are they not?