Yeah, in all fairness, I've never really understood spirituality. I wasn't Raised religious so it never got its hooks into me. The whole worrying about a higher power or an after life thing seems stupid to me.
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It did for me also in my younger years. I am grateful I was not raised around religion. At some point, mid 30s I guess, I needed to feel like there was a bigger picture for it to be worth it. I feel like my son feels like you and he is great at being present and he seems so fulfilled. Maybe it isn't a question everyone cares about at all. For me, fear of death was limiting me from living a better life. Maybe we are involving out of that fear. And just being present. That's the goal. Be here now.
So saying that I don't fear death is not necessarily true. I'm not really looking to die any time soon. And there's definitely more that I want to experience still. But death is part of life. It's going to happen eventually, hopefully later rather than sooner and maybe this comes from a lack of religiosity in my life. But it seems like worrying about a "bigger picture" when It's effectively out of your control is so limiting when we are here now and there's so much life to live and so much you can do in the present.
Makes sense. What age range are you, if you want to share? Do you have children?
Mid-30s, no children. Not opposed to having children for the record, just haven't found a life partner where that's been a feasible option.
Do you see finding that patner and having a family as critial part of what you want to do in this lifetime?
I wouldn't say it's critical. I would like to have that happen at some point. But if it doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen. I'm not going to try and force a relationship and have kids with some rando because I feel the need to procreate.
To me, it's a natural thing for a young man to race to procreate and figure it out after. The mind/fear stops our passions. And for me, there was no greater passion then my 19 yo hard ons. I wanted kids and I didn't give a fuck.
Best non-decision I ever made.
I know it's been said but the time is never "right"
I hope we aren't evolving out of desire to procreate. We need that.
I want to, but Ive lived through enough broken family bullshit in my life where I never want to put my own kid through what I did. So im willing to wait For a stable relationship. It does make me happy that I have friends out there who I see is doing it right.
As long as you have a pure vision and intention to be a good dad, you will. Even bad dads are good. My dad sucked objectively. But he was perfect for me. Of course I now believe in a souls journey. It's all connected.
Of course rushing is never good.
We all have different paths.