Narcissists are good at finding nice, vulnerable, caring people and pushing their boundaries to get everything they think they deserve. All the while never giving anything back that's not used for manipulation and control, whether now or later. Boundaries break this cycle. #grownostr

First of all, this is not something for us to shame or judge ourselves about. This is definitely something for us to become consciously aware of though. It is very hard to find solutions to move forward with our lives while we are only focusing on the problems. #grownostr

Too many of us wait for something to happen or for permission from someone else to make a change in our lives. Many may even disagree with our decisions. We must make the decision for ourselves what we want or don't want. Then we can ask for support in following through with it. #grownostr

Narcissists take many different forms. There is almost always a grandiosity about them. With vulnerable or covert narcissists. They must be more of a victim than everyone else. They have gone through worse according to them. This is why it isn't always easy to spot or recognize them. They are all different. #grownostr

It's almost impossible to accept and embrace peace in your life until you've begun healing the wounds from the past. We must allow ourselves to let go of the past to allow ourselves to step into a new future. This takes time, intention and work. It does not often simply happen. #grownostr

After being gaslit for years we lose trust in our thoughts and intuition. It happens slowly over time and this the the same way we must gain it back. This isn't something we can wait for, we must do the work to regain it. It's not easy, but that's how you get your life back. #grownostr

We've all gone through things in our lives, but this isn't who we are. It's not easy to discover who we really want to be, but it's something everyone deserves. You are exactly who you decide to be and become and you are the only one who can decide this for yourself! #grownostr

You can't have a healthy relationship with a narcissist. You can learn better ways of coping with the situation and be healthier in yourself, but there is no way for the relationship to ever be healthy. Leave if you can, but at least set up boundaries to protect yourself. #grownostr

Enough time being gaslit in our lives and it may be months or years and we still question ourselves. Learning to trust our own thoughts again is a process that takes time. Be kind and patient with yourself. You deserve the compassion you offer everyone else! #grownostr

Narcissists don't want you to talk to anyone about anything going on in your life. Part of this is for isolation, but part of this is so they can keep you questioning your own reality and off balance. They don't want you or anyone else to figure out what's actually going on. #grownostr

Narcissists hate being exposed for anything that doesn't make them look good. They don't want the truth of the abuse to get out. Speak your truth, even if you need to do it in private. Find safe people who will listen and support you. They are out there and they want to help. #grownostr

Narcissists are going to be miserable for the rest of their lives because they refuse to change. It's not fair what we went through, but we can heal from it. Doing the work isn't easy, but it is possible for everyone that decides to. Take the time to heal so you can move forward. #grownostr

Too many people doubt they have the strength it takes to heal from narcissistic abuse. If you made it through it, you have all the strength you need. It's not scarier or harder to heal, it's just different. Unlike toxic relationships, healing gets easier over time. #grownostr

It’s heartbreaking to lose someone, even if they are toxic and even if you left. It was real for you no matter what it was to them. It’s still a loss we must grieve, even if it’s a win for our lives.

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So many people try to insert their opinions. Even well meaning people. However, you are the only one that actually knows your own experience. It's ok to listen, but it's also ok to tell them you don't want to hear it or leave. Boundaries are a healthy thing for all of us! #grownostr

Narcissists will give the excuse of past abuse or a hard childhood as a justification for mistreating others. No matter what you've gone through, it's never an excuse to mistreat someone else. We all choose how we treat everyone else! #grownostr

Whether it's someone that's toxic or someone who is unwilling or unable to do the work. The relationship will only be as healthy as each person is. The healthier you are, the healthier relationship you can have. It also makes it much easier to avoid toxic ones. Do the work! #grownostr

Narcissists will blame you and everyone else for everything forever. They are simply unwilling to be accountable for anything in their lives. There’s also nothing we can ever do to change that for them. Let them be miserable and move on with your life.

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Many people are waiting on healing for the right time, situation etc. There will never be the perfect time or situation. Right now is all you have. The sooner you start, the sooner you get to start living the life you truly want. It's not easy, but avoiding it isn't either. #grownostr

Narcissists get their fix off of other's suffering. They feel less bad about themselves the more miserable everyone else is. Instead of wanting to get better, they want everyone else to do worse than them. They don't care about you, only that you are suffering. #grownostr